One overlooked aspect of elder caregiving is the difficulty of the transition time itself. While some seniors may suffer serious medical events (stroke, heart attack, etc.) which require adult children to manage affairs overnight, in many cases the need for support happens only gradually. This presents a challenge as children must delicately broach the topic with parents who may be uninterested in change. At the same time, sibling rivalry, hurt feelings, misunderstood intentions, lack of information about savings, and many other details are thrown into the mix.
Put another way, before even deciding the best way to provide “financial caregiving” for an elderly parent, one must first figure out when to begin and how to get the parent to concede that help is needed.
A CNBC article last week examined this sensitive subject. The article provides reasonable advice while noting that “the shift [to financial caregiving by adult children] can be less stressful if everyone takes it slow, seeks advice and remembers that helping to maintain a loved one’s well-being is the primary goal.